Ending another doomed relationship (I should stop judging my potential mates by their appreciation of America’s Next Top Model. Most don’t); I sought out my girlfriends for some much needed consoling (I don’t care what he says; Tyra Banks does deserve an emmy!). As we poured the next round, we compared our man meeting methods and our similar man meeting goals: to meet someone cool to hang out with, someone funny but not funny looking, and someone not looking to tie you down (maybe tie you up, but that’s a whole other post…) Several drinks later, we came to 2 definite conclusions (that I can remember):
- Double shots are always the better value. Always.
- All men can’t suck (or can they?) and there must be a reason why we just weren’t connecting
Enter Ronald Lee, owner and founder of Happy Sexy You who believes he has the answers to all the questions a single gal can ask. As a happy, sexy(ish), single gal, I decided to shake him down for the solution to our perpetual problem (and just to be clear- by problem I mean men):
Happy Sexy You, Lifestyle and Dating Coaching for Women is an attraction coaching company that teaches women how to attract men, and keep them!
Myth #1: If a man is interested in you, he’ll approach you. If he isn’t, then he won’t.
Nelley: What the @#$%! So what do we do?
Ronald Lee: Women need to give men a chance and throw them a bone. Approaching a potential mate is always hard and anything you can do to make it easier for them (smiling, nodding in his direction, positioning yourself away from your group so he’s not as intimidated, etc.) will help to increase your chances.
Nelley: What made you get started in the lady coaching service?
RL: The service actually started with me as a professional coach for men. It was also a hobby I had that just took off into a professional career. Guys around me were using clichéd pick up lines, some were unable to even approach women and others just didn’t understand why they weren’t attracting women. I worked with them to give them the knowledge and self-confidence to meet women – in a better way.
Myth #2: Pickup lines work/don’t work
Nelley: So pick up lines don’t work?
RL: It depends. Men or women need to have something to back up a cheesy line. It could be a great icebreaker and make both people laugh and relax but you must have more behind it. You can’t just rely on the pickup line to get you to the next level- ie. having a real conversation.
Myth #3: Love is just like it is in the movies
RL: This may seem obvious but most movies about love (the Notebook, etc) are not the reality.
Happy Sexy You Reveals all: Top 3 Dating Mistakes
Dating Mistake #1: Holding out for the Fantasy
RL: This refers to people who are stuck in this dream world and are seeking a knight in shining armour or some other person that doesn’t exist. Relationships will never work out for fantasy seekers because no one will live up to these unrealistically high expectations.
Dating Mistake #2: Big Picture Dating
RL: Some people are focused on one thing – like having the big wedding – and then marry anyone to achieve those shortsighted goals. What happens in some cases is that after the wedding day, some people have regrets and are now at a loss as to how to keep the relationship going.
Dating Mistake #3: Communication Malfunction
RL: Communication is huge. People need to understand the opposite sex and how they think so they can better communicate with them. This is the sort of coaching I take both men and women through @ Happy Sexy You
Nelley: So how else can you coach us?
RL: Dating coaching, relationship coaching and breakup coaching. We can help you no matter which stage you are in.
Nelley: How do you help with a breakup? Do you provide the booze and tissues or do you help people to actually do the breaking up?
RL: (laughing) we can help them before, during and after the breakup. Our breakup plan helps you to:
– Understand who you are
– See the patterns that got you here (maybe again)
– Review what went wrong and how to avoid it for next time
– Really understand what you want
Nelley: Does Happy Sexy You offer dating services too?
RL: We occasionally have mixers and events where you can practice your skills and meet some great people but our goal is for individuals to have the self-confidence to meet and approach people in any situation. We also teach people how to date because despite what people think, they don’t really know how.
Nelley: So Happy Sexy You can result in an increase in self-confidence, being self aware, gaining skills to (perhaps soberly) handle breakups, and learning the secrets into how men think? It all sounds pretty good to me. Where do I sign up?
RL: Now don’t get me wrong, there are some side effects to this service too.
Nelley: Like what??
RL: People have reported getting better jobs, getting promoted at their current jobs, trying new things, quitting their jobs and going travelling, doing things they’ve always wanted to do, working out more, feeling great about themselves…
Nelley: (laughing): Yes, I think we get the point. Thanks Ronald!
Next up @ Happy Sexy You? The Art of Meeting Men taking place in Vancouver, BC on December 11th and 12th, 2010. This is Happy Sexy You’s highly popular weekend experience that teaches the modern woman how to meet, date, and start a relationship with the man you want. Don’t be shy any longer. Interested? Click here for details.