Budgetary Restraining Order part 2: The Budget Strikes Back

The potential reward: I always like to lead with the good stuff. After successful completion of all budgetary tasks- I will get to treat myself to a trip to the City of Sin. No, not Toronto silly–Las Vegas, Nevada. The original City of Sin.

The Story So Far: Create a budget that covers the basics and limits the extras. Increase savings and limit nonsensical spending (i.e. the wonderful, delightful and sometimes booze filled extras).  Spend no more than $599/ month or $149.75/week.

What the heck are you saving for: Bigger and better things (retirement, Australia, whatever)

The Deity-forsaken Rules:

  1. Have fun every weekend (at least one night out) and plan fun, no budget/low budget activities for 2 other nights per week (doesn’t count and would be unrealistic if I became a hermit for 30 days)
  2. Host at least 1 dinner party for 6+ people…keeping the budget in mind
  3. Find money. It’s in the home somewhere. Any money found can be used.
  4. Get creative.  The best things in life ARE free. Find them.

Where our poor (literally) heroine left off: after 17 days of frugal living, the restraints of the budget were starting to take their toll in a big way. An unnecessary and completely uneconomical shopping spree was about to take place (whee!), pushing the mental and emotional boundaries of the leading lady (oh. Booo!).

Week #3: We are living in a material world…

Top Reasons People Overspend  (taken in part from here )

  1. VIP psychology: to feel as successful as or more successful than those around us
  2. Just add credit: one credit card is maxed out? Just get 2 more and keep the spending party going. Pay all the bare minimums and avoid the truth for as long as you can. If you don’t track your spending, then you can’t be overspending (this works for diets and calorie counting too)
  3. But I want it now! Aka immediate gratification. From fast food to ‘buy now pay later’ schemes, society provides easy access to buy what you want now and as quickly as possible
  4. Lifestyle maintenance: regardless of income level, once we become accustomed to a certain lifestyle, it can be difficult to cut back
  5. ‘Money grows on trees’ syndrome: Spending money as it comes in with the expectation that more will come along anyway
  6. Power spending: Feeling powerful and getting an adrenaline rush from spending. Actually having the money to spend is a moot point. (This Hello Kitty overnight bag makes me feel like a powerful businessman)

    They'll take me seriously now!

  7. What’s your worth?: Spending money to feel valuable and worthy to the world (think shiny new cars & big screen TVs)
  8. Yes-men (and yes-women): Some people have a hard time saying no, even when they can’t afford it. This results from a need to please and a desire to be well liked by all

Reflecting on this list on my way to the mall made me realize that #4 and #5 applied directly to me. Fine, fine. So I didn’t need to go shopping nor did I have to buy anything. Just the fact that I couldn’t and shouldn’t was enough to make it the most desirable thing in the world. (My single girlfriends and I are now going apply this same theory to men by telling them they can’t have us)

After years of spending money on the little things (gum, lotto tickets, the list goes on) and not thinking about it had become just normal daily expenditures. A lifestyle of ease-and-convenience spending hadn’t caught up with me yet but could easily explode if no action was taken (a take-out steak and lobster joint? What a great idea!). At least the financial experts were on my side and recognized it’s hard (so HARD!) to completely change your life in 2 weeks. Sighing, I turn back to my house whilst turning to my own list and immediately lock in on Rule #3: Find money. It’s in the home somewhere. Any money found can be used.

Find the Money

At home I glance at my friend’s wallet on the table but don’t think the experts meant stealing (or did they?…). As I mentioned last week, the financial recovery show Till Debt Do Us Part always encourages the participants to look through and take inventory of what they already have.

Riffling through several decorative boxes I find the following forgotten properly filed away gift cards:

–          $50 gift card to Blue Ruby (my favourite jewellery store)

–          $100 gift card to HBC stores (The Bay, Zellers & Home Outfitters)

–          $30 gift card to Lululemon

–          $20 gift card to Winners & HomeSense

–          $15 Starbucks gift card

–          $10 in stamped Kernels Popcorn cards (14 stamps so enough for 2 free small bags)

–          $130 value: 10 Famous Players movie passes

Total: $355 in gift cards/redeemable items

Wow. Lesson learned: I really need to clean more often. Oh and probably keep better track of free gifts, etc.

As I continue to peruse my own property (I own camping equipment?? What for?), I find many other items I forgot I had (3 spray bottles and 2 refill containers of Windex, 3 bottles of body wash, 3 packages of tooth brushes, 6 packs of floss and enough razors and shaving cream to de-hair Robin Williams) which should further push my need to spend back by a few months.

Week 4: The longest week ever

Food was running low. You can’t eat at Lululemon and trying to live off Starbucks’ coffees and Kernel’s popcorn wasn’t working too well either. Small daily grocery trips and only using what was already in the house definitely reduced unnecessary spending but at this point I was in need of a miracle, a date (anyone??)  or the ability to make a gourmet meal out of cabbage, mustard and san pellegrino…

Feed me, Seymour!

Final Results

After 4 long weeks, 30 long (so, so long) days and endless tallying, calculating, counting, scrimping and saving, reusing, reducing and recycling, the final numbers are as follows:

Week 1: $200.45/$149.75 = Overspent by $50.70 (Whoops!)

Week 2: $194.48/$149.75 = Overspent by $44.73 (Should have used a calculator…)

Week 3: $72.09/$149.75 = Under spent by $77.66 (??? maybe I lost some receipts…)

Week 4: $150.59/$149.75 = Overspent by $0.84

Loss total:  -$18.61 thus NO Las Vegas vacation.

Yikes! According to the strict rules, I could only book a wonderful and exciting Las Vegas vacation if I stayed on or under budget. Failing to stay under $599 for the month, a vacation would not and could not be allowed. It’s important to be strict with yourself and recognize that following the rules is so very important in life…

Ya right. Viva Las Vegas baby!

The view from Ghost Bar @ the Palms Hotel in Las Vegas

Free and fun activities (The ultimate oxymoron):

–          Window shopping: a great way to do research and to determine if an item you see repeatedly is what you really want

–          Girl’s night in: settle in with friends on Wednesday nights and watch the cat fighting bitch-fest that is America’s Next Top Model. Trust me, watching their ridiculous catty dramas is much more fun than creating your own.

–          Clothing Swap (thanks Aline!): the next best thing to shopping. Someone else’s shopping addiction can result in your new going out top.

Yes that’s right. I could only think of a few ideas.  Gimme a break! This was only my first month. If you can think of some free and fun activities, I’d love to hear em: nelleytimes@gmail.com

Photo source:hello kitty overnight bag from www.HelloKitty.com; Las Vegas Sign


Budgetary Restraining Order

$4600 (AKA why a budget?)

I opened my credit card bill in March and nearly dropped it in horror. After double checking to see if it was actually mine I reread the amount due. I owed the credit card company $4,600. All accumulated within a 6-week time frame. Admittedly, some purchases were for investment items that were going to pay off in time but in the here and now – yikes! Not only that, for the past few months I’ve been forever throwing out food in the fridge that gets purchased and never used. I can’t imagine all the $$$ that gets wasted via my refrigerator. While local restaurants were cashing in on my laziness, my wallet and savings were taking the hit.

Enough was enough. It was time to take some drastic measures.

Background story (AKA what’s the dilly?):

I’m a big fan of the show Till Debt Do Us Part. This show teaches couples to reduce spending, increase savings, stick to a budget, find other income sources and to get themselves out of debt.  Most couples on the show are spending up to 3 times more than their monthly earnings, are in consumer debt in excess of $50k, and have no clue about their finances. In each episode, the host, financial wizard Gail Vaz-Oxlade, cautions them: if you continue spending like this you will be $500K, $1 million+ in debt in 2 years, 5 years, etc.

While I’m not in a couple nor do I have any consumer debt- the spending less, increasing savings and sticking to a budget part sounded appealing to me (oooo a budget! How fun!). As I always mock the contestants who can’t stick to one, I felt it was time to put my money where my wallet is (or not put the money there in this instance I guess).

In any case, I have big dreams (move to France, Australia or Mexico), big plans (a website, an online business, retire at 40) so saving money now and proper money management are very important and none of those dreams will come cheaply.

Which brings us to the budget.


Average monthly income (from all sources)

Minus fixed expenses (various savings, housing, utilities, cable and internet, transportation, gym memberships and the always important hair appointments).

Less the cost of the new things I want (maid service, a website designer & server).

(- 60%) Then slash the rest by 60% (As per Till Debt do Us Part)

What’s left: $599/month or $149.75/week to spend on the groceries, dinners out, lunches, brunches, concerts, shows, plays, shopping trips, bars, clubs, coffees, toiletries, clothing, snowboarding, rock climbing, shoes, gifts, snacks, books, taxi rides, magazines, newspapers, lotto tickets, art shows, weekend trips away, and all the other fun extras that you never put a thought to. Life if you will.

As a socially active shopper who can easily spend $149.75 in one good shopping trip or a great night out, this wasn’t going to be easy. However, that was kind of the point.

The Challenge: Get to the end of the month before getting to the end of the money

The Reward: On the show, the winners get up to $5,000 to be used to pay down their debt.  Since I have no debt, my reward is much more rewarding. If I complete all the challenges successfully, then I get to Viva Las Vegas. Up to 5 days and 4 nights to spend in the city of sin dependent on my angelic April spending.

Although I hate them, in this case they’re definitely in order. With the challenge set, there had to be some RULES:

  1. Spend  $149.75/week to a max of $599/month
  2. Beg or barter for any expenses over and above the budget
  3. Have fun every weekend (at least one night out) and plan fun, no budget/low budget activities for 2 other nights per week (doesn’t count and would be unrealistic if I became a hermit for 30 days)
  4. Host at least 1 dinner party for 6+ people…keeping the budget in mind
  5. Find money. It’s in the home somewhere. Any money found can be used.
  6. Get creative.  The best things in life ARE free. Find them. (Caveat: Once found, if you don’t like them, just ask for a refund…)

Week 1: The $10 dinner party (AKA Why spend more?)

Last time I hosted a party for 9, the cost was about $125 as I had it catered by the local grocery store’s pre-made department and included an overpriced house cocktail for sharing (composed of pricey champagne, cointreau and vodka), along with several bottles of mix (brand name pop, Tropicana juices, etc)

This time around – 8 people, BYOB (bring your own booze) and I hope, a better and healthier selection of food. All for $10 or less.

The plan – I had to base my menu on whatever I had in the fridge/cupboards/pantry and freezer.

You’re invited to dine Chez Nellé

It would take place on Day 4 of 30. Everyone was invited to my house for dinner.  Afterwards we would split a cab and go to a concert at a club nearby.


  • Microwave popcorn (ghetto, perhaps but it’s what I had in the cupboard and who doesn’t like buttery popcorn with extra butter?)
  • Homemade trail mix with dried cranberries, almonds, chopped dried apricot slices, pumpkin seeds and sunflower seeds
  • A sliced rustic looking chicken & spinach pizza I found in the freezer. I then added parmesan cheese, sliced tomatoes and sea salt & pepper (to give it a homemade look, hee hee)
  • My personal invention: mini cranberry and roasted turkey wraps. How they tasted in my mind, 10/10. In reality I’d rate them a 6.5/10.

Roasted turkey, tomatoes, cucumber, avocado, cream cheese, dried cranberries and toasted walnuts

Cost: $3.26 for roast turkey from the deli. Everything else was sitting in the fridge (cream cheese, whole wheat tortilla shells, spinach leaves, etc.)


  • Veggie fried rice
  • Baked sole with garlic butter
  • Fresh baked coconut bread (supplied by a party goer)
  • Garden salad with spring mix, feta cheese, pumpkin seeds, sliced tomatoes and cucumbers

mmmm. you know you want some of this

Cost: $2.58 for 2 packets of fried rice seasoning (my favourite). I had a huge bag of rice in the pantry, sole fish in the freezer purchased months ago and an unopened package of feta cheese from a few weeks back. Veggies are always on hand in my house. It was nice to use them for a change versus just throwing them out every few weeks and buying replacements to eventually throw it. It was a vicious cycle.


A bottle of cola and diet cola as well as a selection of soda I keep in the fridge (I refer to soda simply as ‘mix’)

For ice, instead of spending $3 for a bag, I started filling and freezing ice cube trays on Thursday night so I had a full bag of ‘homemade’ ice for Saturday’s festivities.
Cost: $3.20 for the 2 bottles of soda


  • I think I mentioned this before but BYOB. 😉

The results: Empty plates and full and happy bellies! (It also helped that they all arrived hungry, heh heh heh)

Total cost: $9.04, woo!

My #1 tip for success: Using what I had on hand. My other option was to make a pasta dish as I had frozen meat in the freezer, a couple jars of tomato sauce in the pantry and a years’ worth of whole wheat pasta in the cupboards. This wasn’t about luckily having tons of food in the house, this is about using whatever you have in the house. Look in your own kitchens, with minimal purchases, can you host a cheap night in with friends?

Week 1 one went by in a blur. My fridge was still full from previous shopping expeditions and with no new shopping on the horizon, sticking to the budget was fun and eating the food in my house was easy. Week 2 however, was where it started to hit me. Friends would go out for dinner somewhere out of my budget and I would have to say no. Other friends wanted to do some cross border shopping but I had to say no. Go out on the town twice in a weekend? With $149.75/week for everything, there was no way to make it happen without being forced to eat mac ‘n cheese for a week (one box=3 meals). No, No, NO!  It was something I had to get used to saying. As was tradition, on Friday some coworkers went out to lunch and invited me to go along but as I had already packed a lunch for that day there was no reason for me to spend more $$$. N-O. I felt like having sushi for dinner but couldn’t justify the expenditure seeing as I had enough food in my house to make a healthy meal before it went to waste. Gimme an N and an O. NO!

On day 16, frustration hit its breaking point. Friends were showing me their newly acquired purchases (so cute!) and I was annoyed that I didn’t go with them. I need new stuff too. What was the point of the budget anyway? I could see the money in my bank account. It’s just sitting there, why not use it? I’m all about doing what I want and a budget is all about the very opposite of that. Shopping brings me pleasure. I’m bored and I want to spend some of the hard earned money that I earned and dammit, no one’s going to stop me. Not even myself.

With that thought in mind, I picked up my keys, dusted off my credit card and went out the door to the nearest shopping mall.

Happiness, thy name is mall.

**Did I let the budget get the best of me? Find out how I fared thru weeks 3 and 4 in the sequel – Budgetary Restraining Order Part II: The budget kicks back.